As from what we know those days many divorce cases are due to the men’s problems. However nowadays,things had changed. Even women had became the reasons men initiate divorce. Even women request for it.
Those days men seem to just divorce the wives for almost any reason.Like he don’t like her, or he is upset with what her family might have said about him, or his mom influence him, or they feel there is a better bargain somewhere else, listen to the mom’s order and etc. People like in our community never took action in shariah LAW properly. Divorce both party must agree, if someone disagrees one party can compensate.
The most surprising thing in our community is our people are still giving their daughter to a guy who had historical record of purposely divorcing another girl and also accepting for remarry to a girl who had historical record of purposely divorcing another guy.
People nowadays divorce even when they reconcile their differences, but they still could not agree and they found its impossible to live with each other. However they are just being ego on both sides coz i think a long lasting misunderstandings occur only when both parties involved in the dispute is wrong
Why this happens? Don’t they know that divorce is the most hateful thing to Allah?
If we look at Separations, its almost the same. In that case people had decided to be separated.Should separate in a proper and decent manner. From what we see nowadays, people even try to humiliate other people by revealing secrets, backbite about them and etc.
Will our people ever change? Oh, never mind. Let them learn some lessons in future. Amin
From my point of view,
People who had decided to separate / divorce should think and have full awareness and consideration. Using words when in anger is stupidity.
The basic rule is that divorce must be uttered with full consciousness and without any coercion. If a person pronounced the words of divorce to his wife, in a fit of anger, while he lost all control over himself or due to the influence or he was forced by someone else to do so, then in all these cases his words of divorce are null and void and have no effect. In conclusion, let me say that our people must protect their family life and must avoid divorce as much as possible.
If it becomes a situation that u all think must divorce. Pray to Allah and get guidance 1st.
Have anyone had thought how much this divorce had caused unhappiness in some families? People who have children divorce, you are all responsible for your act.
Please seek to those who are knowledgeable and get consultations for u all to resolve your current relationship issues. Don’t blindly take decision or listen to what people say. You choose the path for your life even there is a path with a finishing line which is ready.