Divorce?! Separated!? Why?

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Salam,

As from what we know those days many divorce cases are due to the men’s problems. However nowadays,things had changed. Even women had became the reasons men initiate divorce. Even women request for it.

Those days men seem to just divorce the wives for almost any reason.Like he don’t like her, or he is upset with what her family might have said about him, or his mom influence him, or they feel there is a better bargain somewhere else, listen to the mom’s order and etc. People like in our community never took action in shariah LAW properly. Divorce both party must agree, if someone disagrees one party can compensate.

The most surprising thing in our community is our people are still giving their daughter  to a guy who had historical record of  purposely divorcing another girl and also accepting for remarry to a girl who had historical record of purposely divorcing another guy.

People nowadays divorce even when they reconcile their differences, but they still could not agree and they found its impossible to live with each other. However they are just being ego on both sides coz i think a  long lasting misunderstandings occur only when both parties involved in the dispute is wrong

Why this happens? Don’t they know that divorce is the most hateful thing to Allah?

If we look at Separations, its almost the same. In that case people had decided to be separated.Should separate in a proper and decent manner. From what we see nowadays, people even try to humiliate other people by revealing secrets, backbite about them and etc.

Will our people ever change? Oh, never mind. Let them learn some lessons in future. Amin :)

From my point of view,

People who had decided to separate / divorce should think and have full awareness and consideration. Using words when in anger is stupidity.

The basic rule is that divorce must be uttered with full consciousness and without any coercion. If a person pronounced the words of divorce to his wife, in a fit of anger, while he lost all control over himself or due to the influence or he was forced by someone else to do so, then in all these cases his words of divorce are null and void and have no effect. In conclusion, let me say that our people must protect their family life and must avoid divorce as much as possible.

If it becomes a situation that u all think must divorce. Pray to Allah and get guidance 1st.

Have anyone had thought how much this divorce had caused unhappiness in some families? People who have children divorce, you are all responsible for your act.

Please seek to those who are knowledgeable and get consultations for u all to resolve your current relationship issues. Don’t blindly take decision or listen to what people say. You choose the path for your life even there is a path with a finishing line which is ready.



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Mohamed Ayoub K
9 years 8 months ago

That’s wonderful ! this is not true i said i am old man, that’s the way youths( I am) things are very funny.and I am not bothered about it ( you told me uncle.)
you can ask me if there is any difficulty question about divorce case.I spoke to my friends about this case, they advice me to contact Imam.

and Fazlur can you tell me your age pls.

Guest
9 years 8 months ago

Oh okay, please kindly share with us what u have discussed among ur friends.

I am 28

Guest
9 years 8 months ago

I said i was confused :)

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tsvmsafidah
9 years 9 months ago
According to the Oxford dictionary fantasize means to create fantasy.Fantasy means imagination,mental image,day dream,fanciful invention or speculation.Like one day in the future I must go to the market in a Ferrari with someone like ……………….Ha Ha.Dont compare ourselves with others especially higher than us in any angle.May be we should look at people lower than us.The best thing will be to live our life at our level positively and happily.Like for example not every one can afford a computer.But see Fazlur has a lap top and in his way can mentor,council,debate topics thru the net.No need to be minister for… Read more »
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9 years 9 months ago

Okay madam tsvmsafidah, i got it :)

I agree with u. What u meant is don’t build castles in the air.

We must make our arrangements which can afford us. If we go higher, trouble. Even in marrying someone, preparing to get marry, the wedding function itself. The main matter here is to get marry and live happily.

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Mohamed Ayoub K
9 years 9 months ago
Dear Fazlur Divorce is Allowed in Islam i am 100% agree that. But why man asking Divorce did you know reason for that ? My opinion is may be some bad women (she not true Muslim) Disobeys his(husband)advice about many matter ( she will be secrete sex with other man). May be he asked her to pray Allah and read Quran but she did not listen that. i don’t want talk about all Muslims only i want talk about Alagai Muslims. because first we want keep devlope our home,after village, than country, finally around the world. This is my policy.… Read more »
Guest
9 years 9 months ago

I see.

Well,Can u please highlight the main root cause of divorce among our communities?

The we can narrow down the matter.

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Mohamed Ayoub K
9 years 9 months ago

Sorry Fazlur I have no idea, i am just young man.
better you select the girl (for marry) who loves you.not the one you love.

Guest
9 years 8 months ago

Old man aged 66 had became young man now? :confused:

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Mohamed Ayoub K
9 years 8 months ago

we never forget our childhood ,do we ? why are you very serious about me Fazlur.

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tsvmsafidah
9 years 9 months ago
My last comment and advice on this topic,dont fantasize marriage or married life. it is a sunnah encouraged in Islam.Allah hates divorce.All marriageable aged man and woman should marry one day in life to avoid zinah and fitnah.It is an amal through which we pass our life in this temporary world to achieve the good life in akhirat.The couple must respect each other,help each other.Its better both worked or were involved in business.Plan a small family, your own house and car for a start and live in comfort.Later youll see when you put your heads together boleh tambah property.Finally,as bro… Read more »
Guest
9 years 9 months ago

Please don’t make it the last comment.

There are lot to be said.

By the way, what do u mean by “don’t fantasize marriage or married life” ? I don’t get it. Please elaborate. Thanks

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